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Steps To Make The Best Decisions

People throughout history have made decisions that they have regretted. Regret is a poison in humans that can kill us from the inside, so I wanted to come up with a clear way how to make decisions that would come without regret.

I have come up with a system to ensure that you make the best decisions possible for that time.

  1. Figure out the problem/ decision which needs to be solved or made

The first thing that needs to be figured out is what are you figuring out. Its almost funny how many times people have made decisions on things that they don’t completely understand.

The reason many people don’t do this is because it means we have to think about others feelings and what we did to get to the point of this decision and sometimes even take some of the blame onto ourselves. An example of this is when we decide to cut ties with someone we often blame them for it. We call them crazy, mean, weird, etc and we don’t look at ourselves and how we might have aided to drive the relationship to this point.

Another reason why we may not understand the situation fully is due to making a pre-emptive decision; making a decision on a matter we have not fully invested ourselves in and going by little to no information. An example of this would be choosing between colleges based on what we have expect from say reputation or rumours instead of hard fact.

So take your time and read deeply into the situation from all perspectives and get a firm understanding of what you are dealing with

  1. Look into the past

Once we understand what our issue is the next thing is to look into our own personal past and see what examples of this problems we have had.

I was told a few years back by my mother that “if history is not reviewed it is doomed to repeat itself” and that is exactly why we take this step, this step is to review our “history”. We look back into our own lives, find examples of past experiences similar to the current one and think of what worked and what did not work. What decisions do you regret and what decisions do you no regret that you made.

Many times when we are making important decisions it is hard to find clear examples in our past of that exact situation so also look at even slightly similar situations.

An example of this would be deciding if whether to cut off a friend or try to mend the relationship you can look into the past where you cut off other people or even situations where you were cut off.

Looking into the past is some of the most insightful information because as we grow up and learn we become different types of people so when we look into the past and see what worked and what didn’t work for our past selves it gives a perspective almost from another person.

If no past experiences for you have prepared you for the decision in mind then dive into other’s pasts. Talk to friends or family who may have this or a similar decision to make and find out what they did, how they felt about it, and what they would change if they were in your shoes. The more information you can gather the more informed and insightful your decision can be.

  1. The List

Now it is time to set up the information you have gathered into a physical form to give you and the people helping you a visual

There is only soo much information you can bring into the equation at one time when you are working out a decision in your head so it helps greatly to put all the information onto a piece paper or even a word document.

There are many ways to write out this list as there are many kinds of different decisions to make with many different layers so its not always a black and white choice

I personally for most decisions make what I call a “DO IT OR FUCK IT DIAGRAM”

Here is an example of a “DO IT OR FUCK IT DIAGRAM”

Decision: whether to go to a party

DO IT

FUCK IT

Parties are fun

Build social skills

Can use to talk about PT to get clients

Chance to meet new people

 

Little to no work will be done in this time

Could use time for better things

Everyone will be drunk and I wont (I don’t drink)

Bad for my diet

Could get in trouble for something

Unneeded judgement for not drinking

Have to dress up

 

This is a very small version of my usual list/ diagram. From this list id most likely decide not to go as I could spend my time much more productively (aka id choose FUCK IT) xD

This use of charts allows you to list out all the information you have in your head into one place making the decision if not easier at least far more laid out and informed which is important to making regret free decisions. I like to look at past decisions based on how informed I was at the time, if I took the steps to try and learn as much as I could and looked from multiple perspectives then there is no regret even if I made the “wrong” decision. Like I spoke about earlier in the piece as we grow up and learn we become different people so therefore decisions in our past may not line up with our current knowledge/ belief system and though “right” in the past would be considered “wrong” now. Every decision you make is correct for the time it was made and it’s pointless to regret the past because past self isn’t the same as present self. It is important to remember that your past self has made many decisions your current self would never dream of making and that you will make countless decisions your future self would not.

  1. The final decision

Now you have truly understood the problem/ decision, you have explored every resource, you have laid out all of your thinking, it is time to make the final decision.

Even with all the time you spent on the past 3 steps this decision still may not be easy. You can also remember that making no decision at all is also an option in nearly every case but is often the easy way out that leads to more issue.

Each case is significantly different when it comes to the decision process so I can not offer a whole lot of advice on what to choose. The only thing I can truly say with confidence is that whatever decision you made you can remember that because of these steps you took you have made the most informed and best decision for the time and circumstances and therefore making it a decision which should not be regretted.

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Preparation Is Success

If you are not a fan of reading here is a video where i speak on the same topic

Preparation is the most important step towards success. Kai Greene says it best when he speaks on the 5 Ps “Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance” he speaks on the fact that he believes that lack of preparation leads to failure.

Preparation is everything when it comes to success as it is an entire step in the timeline of success. The timeline of success goes as follows

  1. You have an idea
  2. you create a goal out of this idea
  3. you prepare how to go about getting this idea/ goal
  4. you then begin action in taking the steps necessary to getting this idea/ goal
  5. you fail
  6. you learn from the failure and prepare better
  7. either succeed or continue to learn and repeat.

Preparation is everything to success, giving a simple example is as if you decided that your goal was to play in the NFL (American Football). If you made this goal and did no preparation and showed up at try outs then you would be no match compared to anyone else.

Any work done towards a goal is called preparation, every workout is prep for the competition, every time you sleep, eat, and stay stress free is prep for the workouts.

every decision you make is prep towards your ultimate goal and that is the mindset that will make you permanently successful.

If you changed every decision you made to properly prepare for your goal how would your day look like? And is this day worth it to attain your goal? Let me know in the comments below!

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How To Train: Gironda Perfect Curl

Is reading not your thing well don’t worry I’ve hooked you up and made this exact article in video version! check it out here:

This exercise was invented by Vince Gironda, but most people don’t use it because of the fact you cant use as much weight as people want.

vince gironda

this is the exercise that is the exact opposite of a cheat curl. To cheat curl, you lean so to use momentum, which takes the muscle-building tension off the biceps allowing you to “ego lift” more weight, and makes you the idiot of the gym. The Gironda perfect curl does the exact opposite of that.

How to perform the Gironda Perfect Curl

1, Before you curl, lean back just a little, about 5 or 10 degrees. Shift your weight back onto your heels. The shoulders will be aligned behind the hips and knees.

lean back

2, Slowly curl the weight up from that position. As you lift the weight you’re going to slowly bend the upper torso forward so that in the end position the shoulders are in front of the hips and knees. You’ll now be leaning slightly forward at the “top” of the curling motion.

lean forward

3, Lower the bar using the opposite motion. As you lower the bar, bring the torso back up until you’re leaning back a little.

This exercise increases the tension on the biceps as well as increases the time spent under tension. Gironda said that each rep should last around 6 seconds. (Note: This is going to burn.) Yes, you’ll have to use less weight than you normally use, but your biceps will be doing more work and that means new muscle growth.